Q) When is not okay to bother someone? When is it okay to bother someone? A) It's not okay to bother someone in most cases. It's not right to retaliate in the same way even if I've been bothered. However, sometimes it bothers in a good way for everyone's enjoyment. It's okay when it's like that. It's also bothering in a good sense to tickle while pretending to give a massage to my family.